8 INTJ Pet Peeves That Instantly Annoy Them
Rational and fiercely independent, the INTJ architect personality type certainly comes with their own set of annoyances and pet peeves that they’ve picked up through their life. Yet, ironically, due to their reserved nature, the average person wouldn’t even have a clue of what those could be..
8 INTJ Pet Peeves That Instantly Annoy Them
1. Lack of Logic
With a combination of introverted intuition and extraverted thinking as their most dominant functions, it comes with no surprise that they have a distaste for rather illogical people and scenarios.
INTJs look at situations with a logical mind in hopes of finding the reasoning behind things.. But for most of the world has been influenced by the notion of accepting and confirming, finding the reasoning behind things seems like a waste of time.
But, to the INTJ, the people who think this way are a waste of their time. For example, anyone who uses reasoning behind their decisions such as - ‘because that’s the way it’s always been done’ or ‘because I felt like it was the best choice’ - are logically devalued in their minds.
Luckily, most times, this sensible type is able to just shake their heads in awe and move on.. But when this illogical reasoning is influenced on them through higher positions, such as in a career setting, the INTJ will quickly reason themselves into another position. Which brings us to our next point..
2. Unnecessary Rules
Lack of logic is almost always at the base of unnecessary rules.. And INTJs just so happen to despise both occurrences. Yet, unnecessary rules have a special place in their special book of hate, especially if the rules are set out for them personally to follow.
INTJs love to question the status quo and societal structures that have been placed before them. And when you learn to question these things from an early age, you begin to realize the true irrelevancy behind it all.
INTJs see everything for what it is, and more.. but sometimes there isn’t anything more to be seen. Sometimes it just ‘is what it is’, and that’s extremely unsettling for the INTJ who can automatically see the brokenness of a system.
Plus, rules with no meaning or unfair motives end up hindering overall efficiency anyway, and there’s nothing more tiresome for the INTJ to witness than ongoing inefficiency.. Also known as..
3. Ineffective Systems, Behaviors and Motives
Before an INTJ takes any action, makes any decision, or says any word, they almost always have concluded the efficiency and reasoning behind it. They don’t do anything half-hearted or just for the sake of doing something..and because of this they can become seriously irked when people don’t take things as seriously.
For example, if someone’s excuse for lagging behind at work is that they’re a slow worker, when clearly they goof around every chance they get, an INTJ can end up feeling seriously frustrated. In this instance, time is money.. And even if it’s not their own time and money being used.. It’s a matter of efficiency and logic, why would you show up for a job if you’re going to spend the time avoiding it?
4. Oversharing
INTJs are private.. In fact, they’re known for being one of the more private of the 8 introverted types of the Myers-Briggs typology.
This disinterest in sharing doesn’t only have to do with sharing information about themselves, but also the obligation of listening to other people’s oversharing. This is especially true when the topic of conversation is surrounding emotions, feelings and hardships.
INTJs don’t want to be questioned for the way they act, think, or feel, and they would never intentionally put someone else on the spot to question them about their own doings.
This type of rather illogical banter can end up mentally exhausting the INTJ or even send them into a panic if they’re the ones expected to share.
5. Incessant One-Sided Conversations
On the topic of oversharing.. Sometimes it doesn’t have to do with the topic of conversation but the flow in which a conversation is going.
While we’ve all come across a chatty Cathy here and there, if someone isn’t able to get the social cues that maybe they’re talking a little too much.. You can expect any INTJ to mentally check out (while being completely annoyed in the process).
Conversation and speech have power, and should be used with intention with respect to the listener’s time and interest. INTJ’s don’t just talk for the sake of talking, so they sometimes can’t wrap their heads around the fact that some people are able to talk, and talk, and talk, without any concern that they may be slightly annoying.
The most annoying part is that it would be rude of the INTJ to make any hints or obvious remarks to get the other person to reconsider. Or when they’re efforts to change the topic of conversation gets interrupted by the other person constantly bringing it back to themselves.
6. Having Decisions Made for Them
They may not be much of a talker, but INTJs certainly don’t want anyone talking for them. In fact, quite frankly INTJs tend to think that most people don’t measure up to their decision-making qualifications..even when it comes to romantic relationships.
Most of the time, these logical types want everything to be passed by them which isn’t so much of an issue in a workplace setting and basic social interaction, but can end up causing slight discord in romance.
Setting this tone in a relationship can end up giving their partner the impression that they’re seen as incapable of decision-making on their own behalf. Sometimes this pet-peeve is necessary, and other times, it can end up causing more problems than if they were to just leave it alone.
7. Autopilot Social Niceties
Small talk, oversharing, one-sided conversations .. I’m sure by now you’re getting the drift. INTJs would much rather avoid social interaction than not. However, one of the most annoying aspects of social interaction for the INTJ, are the simple gestures people feel obligated to do on a daily basis.
Sure, things like covering your mouth when you cough, or holding the door open for someone behind you comes with very practical reasoning behind it. But to ask someone how they are when you know that their answer is going to be ingenuine and automatic, just doesn’t do it for the INTJ to continue. Well, actually, sometimes it’s not that easy.
Some people with this type see no way out of these programmed social gestures without seeming like a total scrooge, so they work around it and try to contain their annoyance. But in the end, they much rather use their blunt humor and dry wit to navigate through these social niceties.
8. Superficiality
Fancy cars, designer shoes, the latest and greatest brands.. Save it! INTJs are nowhere near interested in the materialistic views of the world. With a deep intuitive knowing and true sensibility, in the eyes of an INTJ, there are much more important things in life that they’d rather dedicate their determination towards.
Things like knowledge, experiences, and life-lessons hold much more value in their repertoire of valuable things because they are priceless and only achievable if you put the work in. This ultimately leaves very little interest for current trends, fashion statements, and expectations from society.
They see and feel the deeper meaning to life, leaving superficiality to be considered as rather surface level.. Sure, they may seem a little plain or non-expressive considering they’re not the type to care about looks, but in reality, INTJs can end up being some of the most interesting people.